Why I Deleted Instagram: The Spiritual Impact of Social Media

 (PART 1)

 

Last week I deleted my Instagram account (off my phone).

 

It became clear to me this summer, I needed change. For emotional, mental, physical wellbeing, and more importantly at a SPIRITUAL level.

 

Using social media for work, sharing events, connecting with students and clients, in this ever-increasing digital age – I believed I had to be on social media all the time.

 

And with the algorithm, Instagram certainly encourages regular use.

 

You get rewarded if you play by the rules, use the app every day and take part in trends. New tactics to keep people engaged so your posts get seen by more.

 

Thing is, the more I tuned in, the more I noticed, and the more I realised.

Technology can be a great help, and also, it’s an energetic portal. It amplifies energetically whatever is placed online. And it’s a place where you can give and receive energy at various levels, sometimes beneficial, other times less so. 

 

I’ll explain more.

 

(NOTE: If you’re well versed with the energetic world already, feel free to skip to part 2)

 

You see, everything in this life is made up of energy (quantum physics explains more), what you say, feel, eat, drink, post online etc, all holds a vibration.

 

There are things you see, touch and feel with your 5 senses, and also there are subtler frequencies that cannot be seen with physical eyes. Think about WiFi - you see the effect, right? You know it’s there, though most people don’t see data floating through the air with their physical eyes.

 

You have a physical body, and you have an energetic field made up of various layers - I won’t go into detail here, though for simplicity’s sake let’s call the energetic aspect of you, the Soul which animates your physical body. You have a name, a personality and body in this lifetime, yet you at your core are something so much more.

 

Depending on your beliefs (and it can be useful to reflect on different perspectives, even just for a moment) at your core, you never die. The physical body may be left behind, though on an energetic level you live on.

 

This physical life, right now is temporary.

 

Opening up to the world of energy is vast and often brings many questions, fears, beliefs etc. It’s not focused on much in mainstream society (even though it’s heavily studied and proven by scientific studies - specifically in quantum physics).

 

(PART 2)

 

I was brought up knowing about and working with energy from day one.

 

Understanding the depths of food energetics from both parents (my mother being a pioneer in this field with over 45 years’ experience and 9 books) and developing my skills as an intuitive through various modalities, I know deeply the world is not only what we see or sense physically.

 

This awareness and sensitivity were a challenge over the years which has since developed into one of my greatest strengths. Knowing what people are feeling before they say anything, receiving deep insights without looking for it, getting messages from people who have passed… and more.

 

I remember years ago, drawing a picture for someone, getting clear messages for specific things that made no sense to me whatsoever.

Asparagus, golden pocket watch, bookshelf, whiskey in a glass. What?

 

Later to find out that what I drew was a direct message for this person about their deceased father. He bought tinned asparagus for them every Christmas and drank a shot of whisky every evening whilst reading in his study.

 

My mouth dropped open when the person pulled out a golden pocket watch from their desk that they kept as a keepsake of him

 

I had no idea, yet I trusted what I felt energetically.

 

Why do I share this? 

 

We’re influenced by energy (many different forms) whether we’re aware of it or not.

Frequencies from phone masts, mobile phones, bluetooth, social media, news, collective focus and attention on specific things, people thinking about us, different environments etc. Some people are more sensitive to it than others, though we ALL have the ability to notice it.

 

How do you feel in a busy shopping street vs a quiet place surrounded by nature?

Have you ever walked into a room sensing tension in the air?

How do you feel after you scroll on social media?

 

What I’ve learnt over the years is the importance of grounding, watching what I consume (information, food, drink, environments etc) and connecting to what lights me up in life (a direct connection to my Soul).

I use social media (for various jobs) though over the years I’ve developed an unhealthy habit (like many) of using my phone in moments when I could develop more presence. Yes, even with all I know about the subconscious mind I found myself unconsciously scrolling.

“Work” was the excuse to be on the apps regularly and I found it hard to set boundaries whilst having (Instagram especially) on my phone. It became an unconscious habit that kept pulling me back, again and again.

 

Easy access for the Ego to play out subconscious patterns, rather than creating change.

 

(PART 3)

 

First let’s be clear, social media isn’t all bad, it can be used for wonderful things that create a positive impact. Whilst the following points focus more on the negative impact, to bring awareness, it’s important to remember there are benefits too and it can be used with balance for those who chose to do so.

 

I’ve also included some “TRY THIS” invitations after every point to invite change. These are an invitation, not a “must do” and please go at your own pace. It’s not about getting it perfect, doing everything right now. Simply a few reflection points or simple practical steps to shift the focus and step forward regarding social media if you choose.

 

These simple “TRY THIS” steps are a starting point and further steps and professional support may be needed for ingrained habits, though do not underestimate their power due to the simplicity.

DISCONNECTION FROM BODY & SOUL

Unintentionally wasting time through scrolling, disconnecting from body and Soul, therefore creating space for other energies to enter and influence. These apps place people in a hypnotic state so information embeds deeper into subconscious therefore making people more easily influenced.

 

Not just psychologically and emotionally, though also energetically. I won’t go into this in huge depth here though I’ve noticed energetic influences that gain from people entering this disconnected state. Resulting in the person lacking vitality, clarity and purpose in their life because they’re giving away their power to the app and energies connected to the apps without realising.

 

Of course, there is helpful content with information and practices that uplift and inspire the Soul too. Though the act of scrolling itself, isn’t helpful as it promotes disconnection. A perfect way to numb and zone out of the depth of this human experience, which can lead to lack of clarity, purpose and deeper meaning in life when done so regularly.

 

TRY THIS: Take a deep breath counting in slowly 1, 2, 3, 4… and out until 6. Back to the breath, back to the body. From here, place your hand over your heart, notice the rise and fall as you breathe in and out, that’s LIFE right there. Within you. Reconnect.

COMPARISON

Social media is a prime location for comparison between people to arise, sometimes even unconsciously. Though resulting in feeling a lack of self-worth and fulfilment, believing that other people’s lives are better when comparing your whole life to someone else’s curated highlights. This is also very prominent regarding body image too, especially with the increased use of filters.

 

I've noticed this arising personally seeing other coaches online who have way less experience, depth and qualifications yet seem to get more work and have thousands of followers because they’re better at marketing and are ok using the influencer model (posting about their lifestyle to gain more followers). I struggled with this as I do not want to share every aspect of my life online, nor do I want people to want to live exactly like me. I want people to reconnect to themselves and life.

 

TRY THIS: Place your right hand over your left shoulder, and your left hand under your right shoulder… offering yourself a gentle hug. Notice what shifts as you say to yourself “thank you for being YOU”.

JUDGEMENT, BLAME & EXPECTATIONS

Division between humans is common online, with complex issues becoming black and white, polarising people against each other (have you seen Social Dilemma on Netflix?).

 

Using social media for work, and having a following often brings the expectation that you need to speak about all world events also. Many expect you to not just be the professional of which you are trained in …though to also be an activist, influencer, friend, parental figure etc ...the list goes on.

 

I will absolutely speak up on important matters when it’s in alignment though I noticed my energy draining in this area as I cannot tend to every political topic on the planet, and nor should I need to. 

Though some expect this. 

I was also placing pressure on myself to keep up with society rather than holding space for my well-being (which helps me be of better service in the long term). I support some charities and causes and felt a pressure to post about it online with these expectations, though also recognised my boundaries and need to not post everything online.

 

Often the same energetic pattern is playing out on apps that is found in the world, people played like pawns on a chess board (again, if you haven’t seen Social Dilemma on Netflix, do). People being emotionally influenced regarding world events, resulting in turning towards each other, repeating the same energetic cycle of hate within the collective consciousness. And I noticed that in this online environment I was judging myself more too.

 

TRY THIS: What’s REALLY important for you in life, at the deepest core? What do you choose to give energy and attention to? What thoughts, words and actions reflect those core values? When you step away from the stories, and back to what truly drives behaviours (values) and see that in others too, things become clearer and more filled with compassion.

 

SUBCONSCIOUS WOUNDS

Social media can connect humans, AND it also energetically ties to unconscious wounds of the Ego. If an individual using social media has a childhood wound that hasn’t been tended to, it will play out.

Remember what I said earlier? Social media is a portal; it amplifies things energetically.

For example, if you have a rejection wound that’s overlooked, social media will highlight that. If you have a perfectionist streak, believing that nothing you do is enough. Social media will highlight that. This can create more anxiety for people as they unconsciously seek validation through social media to fill childhood wounds.

 

TRY THIS: Take a moment to reflect on what patterns have arisen when using social media. What do they say about unconscious childhood stories that need tending to? What “bucket” is looking to be filled and how can you do that in a conscious and constructive way? If you want extra support with this, 1:1 sessions are available.

 

A COLLECTIVE VISION BOARD

You’ve heard of a vision board, right? Creating a visual representative of what you want to call into your life, through magazine cuttings or online images so the subconscious mind can start bringing that into the present experience (along with belief work etc). Social media is like a collective online vision board.

Whatever humanity draws attention to through online posts, it collectively invites the shared focus to manifest more of that in the world. Shared, collective attention is incredibly powerful, it has the power to influence the world, for better or for worse. Quantum physics explains this further with the observer effect.

 

TRY THIS: What world do you want to see? Are your thoughts, words, actions and what you share online in alignment with that? Can you find a song, image or phrase that represents that to support your vision and daily expression?

 

SHORTENED ATTENTION SPAN & AI

Instagram was primarily used for photos. Now the algorithm favours short, concise videos which help to shorten attention spans. In NLP we use short moving images, repetition and break states to reprogram the subconscious mind and rewire new neural pathways for positive change.

The way Instagram is designed, it does the same, though depending on what content you consume, this can bring positive or negative effects.

For content creators, many have moved to posting videos rather than photos because they get a better reach - which if you’re running a business you need. Thing is, by uploading more and more video footage, of yourself, you are giving more data of gestures, mannerisms, voice, facial expressions etc for AI development.

 

Some say this is a good thing, though to be aware of the possible consequences is important. There are already AI generated videos of individuals saying things they never said. If you’re running a business this is problematic, and energetically it is too.

 

TRY THIS: Switch short form content to more long form content. Creating an identity around this can help as well seeking accountability with loved ones or a professional. Notice what changes when you say “I don’t watch reels anymore” vs “I shouldn’t / need to stop / have to stop / can’t watch reels anymore”. The first statement is an identity statement, it’s decisive and clear which helps to direct behaviour. When something becomes part of who you are, it’s a lot easier to stick to, especially with accountability - language matters! I used this for YouTube shorts and haven’t watched one in over 3 years!

 

(PART 4)

 

And the list goes on, not to mention questionable ethics of corporate giants etc.

 

Though I mention it again, social media or the corporate giants that create them are not necessarily the sole villain here.

 

We need to take responsibility for how we live our lives, what’s helpful and what is and isn’t (for us as individuals).

 

I knew before, though this summer I felt it deeply, I cannot complete what I've come here to do at a Soul level by how I have been using social media until now.

 

• It was distracting me from myself, my true self.
• It was wasting precious time that I could be using to create new projects and ideas that I have yet to birth.
• It was an excuse of the Ego to avoid the depths of the Soul.

I'm not saying goodbye to Instagram or other platforms completely, though taking a break from having my work account on my phone, and saying goodbye to unnecessary scrolling.

 

Using that “TRY THIS” tip from above …I now affirm,” I don’t do endless scrolling”.

 

Allowing my energy field to be filled once again with my whole being, not other energies that influence and drain me.

Looking after myself physically, mentally, emotionally and SPIRITUALLY.

Things that help…

• Time in nature and connection with my body.
• Getting back into reading good books again, fewer screens in the evening and early morning.
• Seeing the bigger picture, listening to my intuition, and guidance from my Soul.
• Creating more intentional space for myself, slowing down, giving myself permission to rest.
• Cutting energetic ties, placing boundaries, holding a firm intention whenever I enter platforms.

Not doing this perfectly by any means, though the intention is there and I’m really enjoying the gifts this new step forward is bringing so far.

 

More peace.

More calm.

More presence.

More time.

 

I may pop in occasionally on Instagram, though for now, I'm creating space and loving it. Focusing my attention on the monthly email shares, blog posts like these, Insight Timer meditation app and on my Telegram channel.

Do you struggle with social media?

What helps you find balance? I'd love to hear.

And as always, 1:1 sessions continue online, worldwide - more info here.

Using AI: What Most People Overlook

How did we get here?

Contorting ourselves to fit in with social media app algorithms, chasing numbers and likes, following latest trends online, rather than embracing our own authentic creative expression and inner knowing.

Judging, blaming and turning on each other in comments online, rather than remembering the human collective family.

Using other people's voices for video audios, rather than the power of our own.

Running to AI to seek advice, rather than listening to our own heart and intuition or seek support from a trained real human being.

Masking our age, real hair, real nails, real curved, wrinkled, hairy bodies to fit in with "beauty" narratives that people should look a certain way.

Believing fed stories of division... rather than the felt connected thread between each human.

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Beyond the AI created words, screens, fake nails, social media filters lies a spark of LIFE that is far greater.

A spark of LIFE within you, others, every living being, nature and all.

LIFE that guides, reconnects, inspires, heals and more.

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With the increased use of AI there's something important that many overlook.

FREQUENCY.

We know thanks to ancient practices and endless scientific studies that everything is made up of frequency - particles vibrating at different speeds.

What each person thinks, speaks, eats, drinks, creates, cooks, moves... and also numbers, words, food all vibrate differently.

Yes technology and AI can be useful, save so much time, though does it hold the same frequency as human creative expression?

When I write my monthly email newsletter, or posts online it's not just words - it holds a frequency.

AI can replicate a similar email, improve it grammatically, create catchy social media posts etc, though it doesn't hold the same frequency compared to when I sit down and express from my heart and Soul.

Monthly shares I send by email, blog and social media posts will ALWAYS be written personally by me.

I could save hours using AI for emails and posts. Though it's not the same felt experience... for my creative expression, and those receiving it.

The monthly shares I send are not just a FREE email with insights... it's a gift from my heart to yours, words that expand, inspire and ignite deep remembrance within your heart on an energetic, cellular level.

Agnes Perspective Photography

Not saying we can't use AI and technology (90% of my work is online - thank goodness for technology!) I've found it super useful transcribing audios, and even Chat GPT can serve a purpose at times.

Though this time calls for important reflection on where we direct our energy, what frequency we wish to share with the world and how that impacts and creates the world we live in. 

Human felt, creative expression heals. 

Human felt, creative expression connects. 

Human felt, creative expression is the overlooked medicine of today's world. 

And... who's guidance are you seeking above all?

External online opinions? Only chat GPT? Or are you creating real human connections and prioritising your intuition, heart and Soul?

Are you remembering that you ARE nature? That when you reconnect to nature you invite healing at so many levels.

Don't fall for the masks, the distorted stories, the distractions (and that doesn't mean turning a blind eye either - it's important to tend to critical world events and support each other).

Though it's important to remember the bigger picture, the deeper truth and return to the heart if you want to see a different world.

LIFE is inviting you to remember.

Who you are, who others truly are, and what this human experience is really about. You're spiritual being in a human experience.

Back to the breath, that's LIFE right there.

Back to the beating heart, that's LIFE right there.

This is also an important key to reducing stress and anxiety too.

When you reconnect to THIS, things become a lot clearer, you gain more resilience and can navigate the ups and downs with more ease.

Back to the main question - what frequency are you sharing with the world?

Have thoughts about AI and the online world? I'd love to hear - let me know in the comment section below.

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How To Find Your Personal Motivation Point

Many years ago when living with my parents in the UK we had a tropical fish tank filled with a rainbow of beautiful little fish. Over the course of a few months these fish began to disappear, apart from one, which in turn grew bigger and bigger and bigger. You can guess what was happening! 

One day when we relocated this fish to a bigger tank at the local pet store, it jumped out and starting flapping its way across our kitchen floor. Needless to say we all started screaming and running around the house like we had just seen a Yeti or something - some were even hugging each other and crying too! Yes, it looked as comical as it sounds.

In that moment I naturally started to do what we call in NLP 'checking ecology'. I considered all the options available possible consequences and used that information to motivate me to pick up the flapping fish and place it into the water again. Despite feeling very squeamish, I did it anyway because I could not bear to see the fish suffer nor could I sleep in peace if I had not done everything in my power to help it. 

In every situation where there is something that feels right to do, yet we are afraid to take action there can be powerful motivators to help us take that step. By considering all options and consequences (a.k.a. checking ecology) we can propel ourselves forward into brighter, happier experiences in the long run. 

As Susan Jeffers says... "Feel the fear and do it anyway!"

Perhaps there is something that you want to do at the moment such as asking someone out for a date or applying for that job you desire, yet you are currently stuck in a state of fear. Everyone is unique with different variations of beliefs and fears... for what one person fears and believes another may feel differently about it. And by taking a moment to consider the following questions you can tap into your own point of motivation and use that information to take your desired action. 

1. If I were to achieve/do/have ____X____ what would I gain?
2. If I didn't achieve/do/have ____X_____what would I gain? 
3. If I were to achieve/do/have _____X_____what would I lose? 
4. If I didn't achieve/do/have _____X______what would I lose?

Feel free to take it even further and consider... if you were to do nothing, taking no action at all what would your life experience be like in 3 months time? And 6 months time? And 1 years time? 

Notice what changes as you consider these questions. And what gave you the biggest boost of motivation? By taking time to consider the consequences of possible actions we can really kick start ourselves into action.

So as always, I invite you the next 30 days to put this into practice and 'check ecology' whenever you make decisions or work towards a goal. Use your personal motivation point and notice what changes when you do. 

This can be especially powerful as a reminder every time you want to procrastinate or self sabotage by eating unhealthy foods or avoiding exercise. We have a choice. Do you want something to change? Start by considering the questions above and use that extra energy to propel you into a more compelling future.

I'd love to hear from you - which question generated the most motivation for you? Using the comment section below please share your thoughts. Also, do you have a friend who is currently lacking in motivation? Offer a helping hand and share this post with them helping you both to Kick start this summer with an extra burst of energy in the right direction.

Wishing you all a great summer!

Ps/The big fish was very happy & healthy in his new home :-)

How To Let Go Of Excess Emotional Baggage

Emotions are funny things aren't they? 

Catching us off guard and making us say things we don't want to say or do what we don't want to do. Common belief is that things just happen to us...we have no control over life and how we feel - now that's a powerless position to put ourselves in! And a scary one too, never knowing what's around the corner or if we'd be able to handle it.

Can we really control our emotions? 

Good news. The answer is YES! How we experience life is much to do with what is going on in our 'control tower' - our brain! The thoughts and images that we choose to focus on in our mind all have a meaning that we attach to it. For each person the meanings are different - we each have our own 'map of the world' or 'pair of glasses' if you like and its by focusing on these meanings, thoughts and beliefs that we have the control of creating lighter or heavier emotional states. It's up to us. 

Not easy, I know.

I certainly have my moments too. The magic part though is being aware and accepting responsibility which can bring a HUGE sense of freedom. We have a choice, we can mope around all day and point the finger elsewhere (easy to do!) or we can accept that the quickest way things will change is by doing something about it and to start changing our focus (more effort at first but oh so more rewarding!).  

So when you next catch yourself starting to feel sad, angry or frustrated...trace back your thoughts and notice where your focus was. Quite often you'll notice negative thoughts such as 'its not working, I cant do anything right' or 'he hasn't replied, he's lost interest in me'...hmmm not so uplifting thoughts eh? 

No wonder we feel rubbish afterwards!

So how can we let go of the emotional baggage if we find ourselves swimming in heavy emotions? 


1) Openness & Loving Awareness: Being open to consider a different perspective, noticing how we feel and tracing back our thoughts to find the root cause. Notice the word 'loving' here. This is not about beating ourselves up again for having a negative thought in the first place...simply be curious and notice.

2) Re-framing: Challenge your thoughts and beliefs and re-frame the situation. Is it really that 'he's lost interest'? Or perhaps he's had a challenging day?

3) Creative Release: If you still feel some of that emotion you wish to let go of, find a creative outlet to release it whether be that through dance, exercise, writing or art etc. I often encourage clients to write what I call the 'I feel...' page if I notice there needs to be more of a release. 

Taking out an A4 piece of paper and repeating and finishing the sentence 'I feel...' until they have completely covered the page. Emotions are like energetic heavy weights if we hold onto them...by writing things down we can let go of some of those weights, allowing the emotions to express their true nature and simply be the 'energy in motion' that they are. Its our constant focus on unhelpful thoughts, judgement and lack of creative release that makes them heavier. Writing the 'I feel...' page followed by screwing up and throwing away the paper can create a huge relief. I also use this technique if ever there is a time I feel the need to let go of excess emotional baggage and it works wonders.

Being an empathetic person myself (yes, its my number one Gallup strength too!) can have its pros and cons. Whilst I often feel what clients are feeling and sense intuitively what needs to be worked on in each moment it can also mean I need to be very loyal to my personal well-being to then ensure I can continue giving the best service possible. Just like when you're travelling by plane and they say 'place your own mask on first before helping others' - because if you don't you simply cannot help others effectively. 


These above tools are fundamental for any empathetic person, or anyone dealing with unpleasant emotions. Try it, notice how much lighter you can feel and let me know what difference you notice in the comments below! Or perhaps you have a technique that works great for you, I'd love to hear your thoughts - feel free to share with everyone in the comments below.

Its through the practice where the real magic happens! 

And finally, do you have friends currently struggling with their emotions? Forward on this post and create pack for a week with your friend, both supporting each other through the 3 step process and discussing the changes that occur...as they say sharing is caring and a helping hand can work wonders.